{"id":14191,"date":"2011-10-23T10:58:16","date_gmt":"2011-10-23T15:58:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/blog\/are-you-afraid-to-commit-%e2%80%a6-numbers-show-many-are-being-held-back-from-success-because-of-their-fear\/"},"modified":"2011-10-23T10:58:16","modified_gmt":"2011-10-23T15:58:16","slug":"are-you-afraid-to-commit-numbers-show-many-are-being-held-back-from-success-because-of-their-fear","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/2011\/10\/23\/are-you-afraid-to-commit-numbers-show-many-are-being-held-back-from-success-because-of-their-fear\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Afraid to Commit? \u2026 Numbers Show Many are Being Held Back from Success Because of Their Fear"},"content":{"rendered":"

In today\u2019s world it seems all too easy to live a life of non-commitment.\u00a0 As evidence, recent statistics show that 51% of Canadian adults are \u2018single\u2019.\u00a0 However, commitment isn\u2019t restricted to personal relationships.<\/p>\n

Commitment is defined as \u2018An agreement or pledge to do something in the future\u2019.\u00a0 So, based on the above statistic, is commitment phobia rampant in our society?\u00a0 Or has what we commit to changed?\u00a0 Maybe people aren\u2019t committing to marriage anymore.\u00a0 Then what are they committing to, if anything?<\/p>\n

Let us take a look at other aspects of our lives, such as events.\u00a0 According to event organizers in the Greater Toronto Area, for most meetings and networking events where attendees were given the option, only about 50% of the attendees register in advance.\u00a0 And of those that do\u00a0pre-register, most of them do so in the last two days before an event.<\/p>\n

Curious as to why this is the case I spoke to many individuals and explored their reasoning.\u00a0 Though they struggled to give an explanation, here are the reasons they gave for not\u00a0pre-registering for events:<\/p>\n

– \u2018I wanted to keep my options open\u2019<\/p>\n

– \u2018I was hoping for something better to come along\u2019<\/p>\n

– \u2018I wasn\u2019t sure what kind of week I would have\u2019<\/p>\n

– \u2018I didn\u2019t know what else was happening\u2019<\/p>\n

– \u2018I hadn\u2019t planned my schedule yet\u2019<\/p>\n

There were other comments given, but underlying these are 4 critical conditions that significantly affect one\u2019s level of effectiveness and success:<\/p>\n

1) Inability to plan,<\/p>\n

2) Not knowing what one wants,<\/p>\n

3) Lacking specific goals, and<\/p>\n

4) Always looking for more or better.<\/p>\n

The way I see it, it all comes down to a fear of not being able to take advantage of an opportunity.\u00a0 This translates into a combination of fear of not knowing what one really wants and fear of not being able to make the right decision.\u00a0 Think about it for a moment, if you knew without a doubt what you wanted, you would not only be able to recognize it when you saw it, but you would commit to it without hesitation.<\/p>\n

As a personal coach, I can say without a doubt that most people do not know what they really want.\u00a0 So, if most of us don\u2019t know what we really want no wonder we can not even commit to an event.\u00a0 Hence, most people will end up attending an event by shear default of not having anything else, or anything better to do that day.\u00a0 How sad is that?<\/p>\n

On the other hand, there are some individuals that are so clear on what they want and so specific in their goals that they have absolutely no problem committing to everything from a simple meeting to a long-term relationship.<\/p>\n

I will go further to say that if you draw a line and put those that can commit on the left and those that make last minute decision on the right that the most successful in our society will stand on the left side of the line.\u00a0 This observation holds true among my friends and my clients.<\/p>\n

8 things you can do to better commit:<\/p>\n

1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Know what you want in all areas of your life.<\/p>\n

2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Make sure that want you want in life is consistent.\u00a0 If you want to travel, but your job has you at the same desk every day forever that may be a sign that you\u2019re in the wrong job.<\/p>\n

3)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Have a vision on what your life will be like with everything you want.<\/p>\n

4)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Create a plan on how you can achieve the life you want, both personally and professionally.<\/p>\n

5)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Research the activities that will support your plan.<\/p>\n

6)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Schedule the activities that support your plan one month or more in advance, while leaving room in your schedule for the unexpected.<\/p>\n

7)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Always follow through with your commitment because if you don\u2019t then you won\u2019t take yourself seriously and therefore why should anyone else?<\/p>\n

8)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Know when to say \u2018No\u2019.<\/p>\n

If you apply these 8 things then you won\u2019t be afflicted with the constant feeling of there being something better around the corner.\u00a0 Imagine what your life will be like knowing that you have made the best decision and you are doing the best thing at any point in time to achieve your goals.\n<\/p>\n

\"Syndicated<\/a>from: Baldo Minaudo<\/a><\/p>\n

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In today\u2019s world it seems all too easy to live a life of non-commitment.\u00a0 As evidence, recent statistics show that 51% of Canadian adults are \u2018single\u2019.\u00a0 However, commitment isn\u2019t restricted to personal relationships. Commitment is defined as \u2018An agreement or pledge to do something in the future\u2019.\u00a0 So, based on…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14191","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14191","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14191"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14191\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14191"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14191"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/metroactive.org\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14191"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}