Whenever someone tells me that they are a different person at home than they are at the office, it tells me they are a liar.
In order for someone to be ‘different’ they need to put on different faces and therefore one of those faces is a lie.
One lesson that I learned well in business and use everyday is that how a person is in one area of their life they are likely to be the same way in all areas of their life. They may put on a front, but when the stress arises, they will resort to their fundamental character and personality.
As a banker, I learned to look at a business professionals personal life and their history as two of the best indicators of what to expect from that individual. Many banks will look to marital breakup, completed education, how long living in same location, how long in same job, community involvement, past bankruptcies, etc. as indications of whether a loan applicant is likely to repay the loan.
Would you lend money to someone who’s separated (can’t keep a relationship), is continuously jobless (can’t stick with a job), and is financially on the verge of bankruptcy (irresponsible)? Well, if you do, don’t expect to get paid back. Instead consider it a charitable donation. And we all know that banks are not in the business of giving away money.
Yes, I know there are sometimes extenuating circumstances, but I’m not referring to the exceptions. The point is this, if you are unsuccessful in your personal life then you will likely be unsuccessful in your career or business. And if you are successful in your business then you are likely to be successful in your career and/or business.
So, what are you really like? Are you a success or a failure in the making?