Faced with a decision, issue or situation in which you’d like additional perspective? ‘Ask Baldo’ is a column in which selected letters to Baldo are answered and published in MetroActive Ezine, the MetroActive Website (http://www.metroactive.org) and in this blog. Submit your letter to baldo@metroactive.org for consideration.
Dear Baldo,
I’m a successful 35 year old man with my own business. A few months ago I realized that I had put together a good team of staff and I now had the time to date and spend more time with friends. I decided that I was ready to settle down into a serious relationship and hopefully start a family. So, I went on some dates and met one woman who I really, really like. In addition to finding her extremely attractive, from the beginning she has said that she wants children. Then one night she invited me over and offered me pot. I’ve never done drugs in my life and was taken aback. I asked her if she was planning to quit her pot smoking once she had children. To my surprise she said “No, I’ll just do it when they’re not around.” I wouldn’t want the mother of my children high on pot, in addition to the health risks it could put any babies that come along in danger if she’s stoned when she should be taking care of them. What should I do?…Tony Z
Tony,
You are correct in your concerns. Pot does have some very serious health effects. For one thing research shows that it is the biggest cause of face cancer. You’re also right in being concerned about her rearing children, especially if she has been straight with you and told you that she has no intention to quit her habit even after she becomes a mother. It sounds like you’ve invested a lot of time and effort and sacrificed much in your life to get to where you are today, do you really want to compromise now on something that will affect your children’s health, your health, create great stress in your life and perhaps even impact your business? If you’re thinking you’re going to change her – big mistake. You may have some chemistry for her now, but chemistry fades and what you’re left with is what you have to live with the rest of your life. It will never stop being an issue. So, just move on and find the right women for you, hopefully one that’s not chooses to put her drug addiction ahead of her children and family. Check out the movie night on November 20th, you might meet your match there.
Good luck!…Baldo
I first met Ken back in 2005 through a mutual colleague. We bonded quickly as we shared many stories and similar successes in both the corporate world and the entrepreneurial world. The introduction was part of an acquisition of a 50 year old food processing company. Within days our mandate expanded to include a second company and we were able to structure a deal that attracted international interest. Our relationship has continued and as recently as three months ago, I referred a deal to Ken in the financial district. Based on what I know of Ken, this member spotlight is well deserved.
Ken spent the first part of his career with major Canadian corporations in marketing including BMO, Nortel and MacDonald Tobacco. He then built companies in publishing, marketing and advertising. Several opportunities were then presented to use his skills to assist companies grow exponentially by developing business and marketing plans and mentoring the management team in successfully executing those plans.
This led to work in the Mergers and Acquisition area where he has helped companies travel through the minefield of buying or selling their business. As part of that process Ken studied to follow the rules of the Real Estate and Business Brokers Act and is a licensed Real Estate Sales Representative with Real Estate Homeward in the Beach.
He now practices Residential and Commercial Real Estate including M&A, business sales and Lease/Rent to Own for Investors (15-25% ROI p.a.) and for Renters with bruised credit (but consistent income).
You can reach Ken by telephone at 416 553-6376 or by email: kenc@kaceeyteam.ca, website: www.kaceeyteam.ca
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